Why Men Love a Muse
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What is it about an attractive or intriguing woman that turns an ordinary man into a creative whirlwind? What magical process enables him to invent, to sculpt, to paint, to write or to compose a masterpiece out of thin air simply by concentrating on the object of his desire?
While women may fantasize about attractive men and be inspired by them, men are often more likely to abandon all sense of propriety while losing themselves in creativity while women have the good sense to put this tendency of men to good use.
Emilie Floge is remembered for her relationship with Gustave Klimt, the artist best known for "The Kiss" and one of those most influential in elevating Vienna to the cultural status of a Paris or Rome at the turn of the century. Klimt's participation in this "golden age" of art was fueled by beautiful women, particularly Emilie. She in turn, used his influence and creativity to help her become one of Vienna’s most exclusive fashion salon couturiers. Klimt personally designed dresses for her. Note the loose fitting style worn by her in the “Portrait of Emilie Floge” to the right. Her wide range of textile patterns echoed the colorful, abstracted patterns found in his paintings.
Pablo Picasso may have been the poster child for the idea of muse driven art. While Klimt confined his sexual relations to his models, thus allowing him a longer run with his muse Emilie, Picasso had torrid, and eventually tragic relationships with many women who were the inspiration for and were featured in his art. He alternated from worshiping to total disregard for the women in his life as inspiration waned and a new muse appeared.
There are only two types of women - goddesses and doormats. ~ Pablo Picasso
Love is the greatest refreshment in life ~ Pablo Picasso
Like Apollo, he had as many as nine muses from whom he drew incredible energy and each were intensely attached to him. He was a prodigious, fearless and innovative artist producing as many as 50,000 wide ranging pieces. When questioned about his non-stop pace, he said: "Inspiration exists, but it has to find us working."
Are you a person who needs a muse to get you going?
It might be helpful to make a list of the things that motivate you. These are the things that are really important to you, that you care deeply about. Try to visualize what or who you adore, cling to, hold dear, treasure and love. Include those you hold in high esteem, idolize, revere or worship and write it down.
The ideal is to fit the things that drive you in with the purposes of your life, the basic tenants or personal rules of character that define who you are.
What makes you feel vital and alive?
What inspires or lifts you?
What drives, enthuses and excites you?
What provokes you or makes you mad enough to act?
What helps you define and achieve your goals?
Now write down what actually drives or inspires you on a daily basis. Whether or not you admit it, we are all a little like Homer Simpson: "Today I am going to concentrate on the important things of life--oh look, a donut!" We are moved by the lower drives on Maslow's Hierarchy of Values, but each of us aspire to a higher motivation such as esteem or self-actualization. If your muse can lift you to the higher levels of motivation and allow you to be the best you can be, then go for it.
Of course, there are those who say the muse phenomenon is merely the biochemistry of attraction. We see an attractive woman and the hypothalamus sends out neurotransmitters--dopamine, nor-epinephrine, serotonin and a symphony of chemicals give us the euphoria, the sense of "head over heels" infatuation sensation. Driven by these stimulants, we maintain a high level of emotional and creative intensity for at most a few years when the experience wains and the "long haul" chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin take over.
Those of us who have experienced it know that the muse kind of attraction and desire starts somewhere beyond the hormones and neurotransmitters and although we enjoy the rush when our body responds, it is the mental and spiritual dimensions that give it a channel and meaning.
One of the problems of the muse relationship is balancing the flow of emotional energy. The best muse relationships involve motivation on mental, emotional and spiritual levels as well as mere physical attraction.
I blazed through the internet looking for examples of inspiring women and found list after list of women, who may be accomplished and role models, but are not my idea of a muse. Oprah Winfrey, for example, is an amazing role model, but not what most men look for to propel them to high levels of artistic creativity. In the fabulous remake of Great Expectations, Gwyneth Paltrow is molded by Anne Bancroft to be the ultimate heart breaker muse. At times alluring, teasing and yet unattainable, she spurs Ethan Hawke to success as an artist and as a financial equal. Fortunately for both of them, she overcomes the need to destroy and they find happiness together.
Finn: I did it! I did it! I am a wild success! I sold 'em all, all my paintings. You don't have to be embarrassed by me anymore. I'm rich! Isn't that what you wanted? Aren't we happy now? Don't you understand that everything I do, I do it for you? Anything that might be special in me, is you. ~ Great Expectations
We are shaped and fashioned by what we love. ~ Goethe
In Gone With the Wind, Rhett Butler is motivated by Scarlet O'Hara who in turn is motivated by Ashley Wilkes and her beloved Tara. This is an example of the worst kinds of muse--unrequited and ultimately destructive emotional energy. Compare this with Robert and Elizabeth Browning who were both smitten with each other and each other's gifts.
I love your verses with all my heart, dear Miss Barrett, ... so into me has it gone, and part of me has it become, this great living poetry of yours, not a flower of which but took root and grew ... the fresh strange music, the affluent language, the exquisite pathos and true new brave thought ...and for the first time, my feeling rises altogether. I do, as I say, love these Books with all my heart -- and I love you too ~ Robert Browning
Muse
Voices all around me but I sit silent
Scarcely moving
Stuck in
Dreams
Colorful playthings
Images of a world where I am effervescent
Transcendentally becoming
Awash in
Light
Awaking memories
Days of laughing and loving...I smile
Almost dancing
Caught in
Stills
Vivid color
A face comes into view as I move inward
Eyes locking
Time stops
She
Her face
A universe of visions in an instant glance
Captivating look
Preserved in
Amber
Lovingly framed
All around me silence but I am singing
Vividly dreaming
Lost in
She
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What could be more desirable than a beautiful muse for most artists? (and bricklayers)
Who would want to paint a mountain when one could have a beautiful muse to muse over. The depth of your poem demonstrates how hypnotic and alluring a beautifully painted muse can be. Time marches on for everyone, except for a muse, locked in an artist's frozen moment. Cheers Winsome
Interesting subject and beautiful poem, Winsome. The ultimate 'Muse' photo is sensational.
Thanks for sharing another cool and awesome hub! The muse may vary depending on the taste of the artist, but above all, they can always touch the very soul of the one who knows to appreciate it. You shared a very soulful poem too... I love this hub! Cheers! =)
Your poetic art captures the transcendent exhilaration of the muse relationship perfectly. Otherworldly, all consuming, real in the moment, but is it real? I think Plato's experience is the consuming, but transitory epitome of the muse. It can be like a drug and I wonder if the rush of brain chemicals are more the addiction than the object of desire. Mesmerizing, inspiring, thought provoking, excellent piece, Winsome, and your poetry is a masterpiece.
Well, Winsome, I can't compete with Shakespeare, but I will say, thank you for your beautiful comments, and add that you are adorable.
Men love a beautiful muse because they think with the other head. Like you said, Oprah was not one. LOL
Haha, Granny's House! But Winsome-you've written a powerful and lovely poem which speaks volumes about you. I love your writing, which is extremely inspiring. Perhaps I'll consider you as my muse...if you don't mind!
Thanks
Love the poem! Your muse was working overtime? I love this hub and the topic. An artist finds his/her muse at the perfect time, and it may be for a moment or a season.
The muse finds that part of you that no one else can touch.
It's secret and exhilarating, hypnotic, energizing, sensual, poetic, ethereal, one goes into another realm when the muse is at work. I think everyone benefits from finding their muse at least once in their lifetime. I know I found mine at one point, and he reached within and found my inner self waiting to exhale. It lasted for about two years, we never met face to face. We wrote stories together, I for his photography themes, he for my poetry. By writing, I helped him learn English. He went on to become a very successful fashion photographer and has his own modeling agency in Berlin.
I treasure those years, for he showed me where inspiration lives and breathes.
Thumbs up Winsome for another favorite hub. I always look forward to reading your inspiration.
WOW, that quote is beautiful, and so very true. I'm going to copy this into my journal.
I'm flattered Winsome, hurry up and sell your first book!
I'll buy the first copy. :D Strolling along the left bank with you sounds de-lovely!
I love this hub. It's very unique and interesting. I love the "goddess and doormat" quote. The same goes with men as well. I think that many people believe it's not the same because society has trained us to believe that woman are meant to be admired and men are meant to admire the women. *shrug*
I once had a whole discussion with a friend on who is more romantic, men or women. I told him neither because you can do all the romantic gestures you want, but it up to the one you are doing it for to determine if it is romantic or stalkerific. :)
Romance is only romance if it is wanted.
A most enjoyable hub and very thought provoking. Thank you.
You should take a peek at my hubs, the 'fairytale' ones, I go in depth on my first installment about my muses. :) I didn't take the poll because it didn't have an "all the above option" because my muses are the following; Soda, Jiffy, Valeriu, written words in general (I actually have written over 12 books just based on a single phrase or word) and art in general. Deadlines don't really inspire me, they are just there for a "sell-by-date". Lolz. Well, for me anyways.
That doesn't make much sense, does it? How can one be a "hopeless/incurable" romantic if they are enjoying every minute of it? Incurable almost makes it sound like a disease eating away at your very core, but many don't actually 'suffer' from it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but beauty isn't necessarily romance. :)
Wait, would the color be "romantic" or would the fabric be "romantic"?
Cute. But that still doesn't answer my question. -_^
Interesting. I just got the image of a jacket made entirely of romance. With it, a person is Casa Nova, without it, they are an average citizen who longs for love but cannot obtain it. :)
Winsome - The Kiss is just about one of my favorite paintings - all time. I love Klimt anyway. Lovely hub:). I've never really thought much about muses - interesting - Up and awesome!
Winsome - haha! (a-MUSE-d)! You are right though - I do write about things or people that surprise me in some way. Klimt is dreamy. I also love - The Scream (Edvard Munch)! Figures:)
Right - I was thinking about it as I read your comment - screaming kisses? LOL! Omg!
A muse inspires, a dormat says nothing but YES and the psychology of men is simply that they are more intrigued by women who "seem different". Great hub!!!! :)
I enjoyed your perspective on this subject. I have not thought of it much but in doing so feel that I am touched by both situations and individuals which prompts me to write at my best. Witnessing particular situations can really bring out the imagery for me and cause my imagination to flow. The beauty of women has certainly driven my creativity as well as fired my distraction in many ways...they are a blessing and a curse to the writer. Thanks for sharing this nice piece of work and the great verse at the end. WB
Hello Winsome,
I guess I will stand in line to visit you with fine compliments and beautifully constructed subject matter. I find not only your historical references very helpful, but equally intriguing. I have always felt the deepest pull to write when I am under severe emotional strife. The deeper my conundrum, the stronger my creative juices. I find that when I am in a state of equilibrium, I really have little to say, almost stupefied if you will. Great story, thank you for sharing.
Winsome - that is such a spectacular peek into someone else's reality. "Jess and I broke up at 10:50p.m." amongt Ansel Adams photographs. That just makes me think of a million thoughts! Lovely commentary:)
Ansel Adams are breath taking - but this hub just kept me thinking! So way up and outta site! Hey - maybe you are going to be my muse? Lol
Hi WinAll! I am in a low state of confusion after reading this article! :)
Wonderful hub! I was going to ask you to be my muse, but after reading all of the comments, I guess I will have to take a number or just grab a cup of coffee! ;)
Wow and totally thought provoking too!
My muse Vincent lurks in the shadows, staying close to my writing desk, forcing me when my energy wains to take Quill in hand and create. Sometimes it takes more than one glass of grape to bring forth the demons and angels from my heart and soul.
Yet my muse leans patiently against my desk, almost smirking, and pursing his lips quietly whispers into my ear. Write Saddlerider, write, write and I do. I also have been moved by the opposite sex to do many things and in my life they have won out. Peace to you my fellow poet. Excellent scribe, rated way UP...
I have yet to find a true muse. I cant make it come and I cant look for it. Somehow my inspiration just smacks me in the face and my fingers fly. I hate it - no control. Perhaps I will try the above mentioned muses in the poll and see if one hits my fancy. For now, I sit below 50 hubs in 3 years hahaha Sad...
Ooh yes. A nice shiny, yellow Corvette-type muse would be lovely! As I read through all the other comments I felt quite alone with my problematic missing muse. Now I am more determined than ever to discover a new place, to stumble upon a different situation, or to fall hopelessly in 'crush' with someone new...ANYTHING to make me write!
Oh holy moly, you've found where I need to be to find my inspiration. Can we play checkers on the dock while we wait for the boats to come in? (P.S. Tell Vicki I said to travel safely.)
Hmmm, I will let you know what this inspires in terms of literary genius...most interesting are the ideas I have so far ;) That Vicki is a real doll.
Winsome,
I enjoyed The Muse very much though I am not sure one has to be beautiful to be one. Monet's wife was far more attractive than his mistress yet he painted his mistress many times. He seemed quite taken with her to the point he didn't seem to care who knew it. And she was actually quite homely. I guess it really is a matter of "beauty being in the eye of the beholder" I truly enjoyed reading the viewpoint of a man and then the comments of other men on that illusive subject of muses. I have always been curious. The poem is lovely and soulful. I am anxious to read more hubs.
Lisa
Winsome,
I am so glad to have met you, too. What awesome words and thoughts you have. How sad for Solomon. But I watched Oprah's master class. Bon Jovi was the featured guest. He talked about never believing you've made it because if you do how sad that would be to be "done" and went on to talk about the success of his 'slippery when wet' album and how successful it was and he was only 25, and everyone was saying he couldn't replicate that so he had to find an entirely new and fresh goal because he was, after all, only 25. He was way too young to be done. It was a great show. It said alot of what you said above. Your words have inspired me.
Lisa
A real muse shouldn't be a living woman or man. Muses are supposed to be pure, inspiring, and unattainable. If your muse is someone you are with, then scratch out the label "muse" because she just became "the one you love" and there is nothing wrong with that... on the contrary, it's a higher honor.
Beautiful poem, too. You're a very talented writer.
'love the posts! i recently met my first muse online...the energy of desire has fueled fresh poetry and he knows he is the muse, which i did not know. problem is presenting.....we are not yet together and my desire is to inspire him..it cannot be forced, this muse relationship...focus of concentration is the very real catalyst to the writing..and the tension of not having met. i'm lovin this muse...is it a huge responsibility for them?
You have an incredible way of expressing yourself, Winsome. Muse is an interesting concept - I think there is some element of the unattainable, even if the person is close to you, particularly if they're still always just a little out of reach, but in a positive, inspiring way. It seems there is a small band of attainability that is muse - before that is too familiar, beyond that is too distant. Great subject; great hub!
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Hyphenbird Level 8 Commenter 11 months ago
The muse is as different and varied as the person who loves him/her. One can be ethereal or dowdy and an artist might go creatively crazy. Love of one inspires and creates a muse. This is a cool Hub. Thanks.